For American Indians and Alaska Natives, spirituality is often the core of who we are and our way of life, as a people. Our culture and spirituality are intertwined and provide the foundation of our lives – how we live, our family roles and how we interact with others, the meaning we find in our lives, and our sense of wellbeing. To have our spirit attacked is as personal as an attack can get.
Spiritual abuse can be used to control how a person interacts with the world. Some of these types of abusive behaviors can include when your partner:
- Belittles your beliefs, practices and traditions
- Prevents you from participating in spiritual or cultural traditions
- Forces you to participate in practices (not your own)
- Misstating or misusing spiritual practices against you
- Practices bad medicine against you
For our tribal communities, spiritual or cultural abuse can look like this:
- Telling you that you’re not “native enough”, or if your partner is non-Native, that you’re “too Indian”
- Uses hurtful stereotypes to put you down (“Indians are drunks, lazy,” etc.)
- Prevents you from participating in ceremonies, pow wows, feasts
- Uses tribal membership against you (“My tribe won’t let you…”)
- Tells you that you’re not allowed to drum, dance, sing, fast or otherwise participate in traditions because of your gender
Each of these behaviors can deeply wound and often isolates you from your community. If your partner is behaving this way toward you, you may feel removed from your family and support system. You may be embarrassed, not know where to turn or who to ask for help.
In some cases, you may even feel that the abuse is the direct result of your culture — that you are being abused because you are Indigenous. This form of abuse is a directly related to the root causes of violence in our communities: colonization and genocide.
If your partner or loved one is demonstrating any of these behaviors or any type of abuse against you, please know that you have the inherent right to be safe, to lead a life free of abuse and to participate in your cultural practices and traditions.
When you’re ready to talk, we are here.